10 Ways You Can Help Out A New Mom
November 23, 2019 | by amanda ryan
It’s no secret that having a baby is a major, and hard, life change. The crying, the diapers, the lack of sleep, it almost makes you wonder how new mamas make it out alive!
During this huge transition, there are so many things a new mom wants but will never ask for.
If you’re the husband, parent, or friend of a new mom, here are 10 ways you can help out a new mom…
1. Bring her some food! Bring over a casserole, some takeout, or even some sweet treats.
2. Bring her a coffee. Sleep is a completely foreign concept to new mamas. Drop by with a cup of coffee (or tea) to help them stay sane!
3. Avoid critiquing them. New moms have enough on their plate, they don’t need to hear about perceived “wrongs.” Focus on the positives instead.
4. Give her your hand-me-downs from your own baby. Babies grow like crazy, so any way a new mom can get out of buying clothes new she will probably take.
5. Don’t make your visits all about yourself. Right now, that baby is the center of her world, and she will be overwhelmed with figuring out how to care for it. Although the split attention can be hard, grin and bear it for a bit.
6. Try not to brag about how easy your experiences were if she seems to be struggling. When her baby is crying until 4 AM, she probably doesn’t want to hear about how well your little one slept.
7. Be there as an outlet for her stress and frustration. New mamas are often expected to put on a smile for the baby’s sake, so she needs some way to vent about her struggles.
8. Watch the baby as she takes a nap. Having a baby takes a toll mentally and emotionally. Let her take the edge off while you take the baby for a walk.
9. Don’t be a Debby downer. When a new mom is in the midst of handling a hungry, sleeping, and messy baby, the last thing they want to hear is a comment like, “Oh, just wait until they’re a toddler…”
10. Check up on her. Beyond those first couple of weeks when it’s visitor central. New moms often feel isolated and alone, especially if they’re experiencing postpartum depression. Reach out and make sure she knows you’re there for her.
Amanda Ryan is a freelance writer specializing in child and family content. Within this content area she has about 5 years of experience. Her love for learning about family life led to earning a bachelor’s degree in child and family development from Western Michigan University. She loves to research and write about the things that can help make parenting a little easier!
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